How to set per process swapiness for linux?

/proc/sys/vm/swappiness is nice, but I want a knob that is per process like /proc/$PID/oom_adj. So that I can make certain processes less likely than others to have any of their pages swapped out. Unlike memlock(), this doesn’t prevent a program from being swapped out. And like nice, the user by default can’t make their programs less likely, but only more likely to get swapped. I think I had to call this /proc/$PID/swappiness_adj.

How can I see what processes are running?

I use Ubuntu Server 10.10 and I would like to see what processes are running. I know that PostgreSQL is running on my machine but I can not see it with the top or ps commands, so I assume that they aren’t showing all of the running processes. Is there another command which will show all running processes or is there any other parameters I can use with top or ps for this?